- Visualize Positive Results - Our minds tend to naturally slant to the negative. We ask ourselves "what if they react in a negative way?" or "what if I say the wrong thing?" Replace those thoughts with "what if they react in a positive way?" or "what if I say exactly the right thing?" Assume positive results, and that's what you will have. Even if the result isn't exactly what you want, you'll find yourself seeing the positive side of the event.
- Don't Take Things Personally - A big reason people don't step out is because they take other people's reactions too personally. Most of the time, especially in business, it's not personal, so don't take it like it is.
- Build Your Knowledge - Grow in your skills and knowledge, and your confidence will grow along with it.
- Turn Negatives Into Positives - Spin things around, and take something that's negative and make it into a positive. For instance, salespeople are afraid of the word "no" because they are so focused on getting to the "yes". In this situation, know that with every "no" you get closer to another "yes". Make "no" goals instead of just "yes" goals. Each "no" is now getting you closer to your goal instead keeping you from it. It's all what your perspective is.
- Just Do It - Stop thinking about what could happen and just step out. You will be surprised with the results, as well as the confidence you gain in yourself. People beat themselves up over the things they know they should do but they don't. Just getting out there and taking action, regardless of the result, will build confidence and make it easier to do it again.
Yes, we can be thankful for a great job; we can be thankful for the nice things we may have; we can be thankful for the things that success gives us the privilege to enjoy. But don't let those things define your thankfulness. Be thankful for them, but only secondary to the things that really matter. Be most thankful for your health; for the fact that you are alive to enjoy today; for your family and those around you that love you. Be thankful for the opportunities before you, even though they may not have shown any fruit yet. Be thankful that you are in control of your life and how much success you see.
This year, let's look at things with a different perspective than we may have had in the past. Let's dig deeper and look at what we are truly thankful for - those things that a bad economy or troubling financial situations cannot take away.
However, in those few minutes between the engines being struck and hearing from the pilot, a lot of things go through your mind about your life. What could I have done differently? What will my family do if this is it? Who will remember me and what will I be remembered for? I can tell you that these questions have been on my mind before, as I always want to make sure I am trying to live my life in a way that I can make a difference and leave a legacy. But these questions have increased even more in importance and have become at the forefront of my mind.
I can also tell you none of what went through my mind had anything to do with my business, my finances or any of my goals relating to my many endeavors. When it comes down to the end, none of that matters, and yet that is what we all (me included) tend to spend the most time and effort on. It's easy to make it seem like those things are more important than they are. We certainly spend more time on them than on the things we say are more important to us, like our family and friends. I know now more than ever that my main goal in achieving any kind of financial success is having the ability and the freedom to be able to spend as much time as possible with the people I love the most. Secondly it is to make as large of a positive impact in the lives of others as possible. The appealing aspect of having "things" and living comfortably is, although still a desire, not nearly what it has been in the past.
I hope it doesn't take an event like this to help you realize how important it truly is to look ahead at what you are setting up for those who come after you. What kind of legacy will you leave? What do you want to be remembered for? I encourage you to ask yourself these types of questions, so you know what your target is and can therefore make your choices accordingly. Also, don't forget how fragile life is. Any day could be your last. Only God knows when it will be. Don't dwell on it in a morbid way, but remember it so that you remember what is really important. Remember it so that you don't make things that aren't a big deal into something that is. Some things just need to be let go of. Some things aren't worth arguing about or holding onto. Life is too short. Plan for the future, for success, but always live life today as if it could be your last. Keep things in perspective of what is truly important in your life.
- What do you like to do in your free time?
- What gets you excited?
- What would you do even if you didn't get paid to do it?
- What cause or goal drives you the most?
- If you could do one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?
- What makes you unafraid to fail?
- What do you like to talk about?
- What are you naturally good at?
Take your time answering these. Put some good thought into it instead of just rushing through it and trying to answer them. If you are struggling to find your passion, I guarantee answering these questions will give you a good start on your path to finding it.
Examine your thoughts right now. Is there part of you that thinks that you don't deserve to get what you want? Maybe you grew up without having much and you're stuck in that way of thinking. Maybe people around you make you feel guilty for wanting to have money, or have a certain position. Whatever the case, you are not the only one who feels this way. Many people struggle with this.
Part of the problem is what we are surrounded with and told on a daily basis. We are programed to "give back" when we achieve success, as if we took something to begin with. I'm all for giving, but to "give back" sounds like you are a thief retuning something that doesn't belong to you. We are told over and over of things that can make us feel guilty and feel like we shouldn't try to get "more than our fair share". Let me tell you something; YOU DESERVE SUCCESS, and you deserve to have whatever amount of success you can achieve. Don't let anybody talk you out of that.
If you're being held back because you have been thinking, even slightly, that you don't deserve, are not qualified, or aren't good enough to have what you want, replace those thoughts right now with the fact that you DO deserve it. You can have and should have whatever you want in this life. Now go out there and get it!
Remember, there are many large companies that were started in "down" economic times. Microsoft, General Electric, Burger King and FedEx were all started during recessions, just to name a few. It's obvious that a recession is a time full of great opportunity if you can look for a need and fill it in the right way. Don't be afraid to take a step out and start something right now just because of the economy. Where would these companies be if they had waited? I can imagine they would be in a different place than right now, and you could definitely make the argument that the recessions actually helped them get started. Services, products, commercial space and other business costs are all cheaper right now and during other economic slowdowns, as people fight for business more than before. Start-up costs are lower as a result, and monthly expenses are lower as well. You can also get great talent for less money than before.
There are many opportunities out there, you just have to look for them. If you have thought about starting your own business before, think even harder about it now. Start looking into what it would take to make it happen. Then go out there and do it. Don't wait. If you take the time to actually look at what can be created right now, I'm sure you will agree; Opportunities abound indeed.
Everything in life holds risk, whether you recognize it or not. You could get in your car this morning and get in an accident, and it could be all over. I'm not trying to be morbid or negative, it's just a fact that anything you do holds a risk of some kind. If you are doing something, you are risking something. The only way to completely avoid risk is to do nothing, which isn't living. You could even say that you are risking by doing nothing because of the consequences that could have on your mind and body.
What you have to remember is that as soon as you consider doing something, your mind goes to work to create all the possible scenarios that could happen. Your imagination is at it's worst here, coming up with all kinds of reasons why you shouldn't do something and all the bad things that could happen. Mark Twain is quoted as saying "I have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened". We can worry ourselves to death about what could happen but most likely will not; and those are the things that we let talk us out of doing something that is potentially "risky" but can have huge rewards in our lives. Don't let what may or may not happen stop you from moving forward.
Jim Rohn has said "The same walls that keep out disappointment keep out happiness. Take the Risk." We can try to protect ourselves from disappointment, but we will never gain happiness by doing so. Only by taking risk and attempting to reach our potential can we accomplish happiness and true success. The fact is that we are never going to keep out disappointment anyway. I would rather fail, be disappointed, and learn from it than never try and be disappointed at my lack of effort, wondering what could have been.
Step back and take a look at what is holding you back from taking a risk in your life that you know you should take. Whatever it is, own it and move forward. Don't let those things hold you back. Move forward in spite of the fear or the negative talk in your head. Take the risk. My bet is you'll be happy you did.
- Be disciplined - Discipline is a huge factor and can be a large part of why you struggle to move forward while someone else seems like they are sprinting ahead effortlessly. If you are not disciplined, it is easy to get away from the tasks that you know you need to do but you don't want to do. Don't get in the habit of just going about the day and trying to get as much done as possible. Be structured about it. Have a schedule, put your "must do" tasks in, and stick to it.
- Focus on your "Why" - When the struggles come, and they will, focus on why you are doing what you are doing. What is it that you are trying to accomplish? Remember, a big "why" means big motivation, so looking beyond the problem to what you will have when you find a way around it will help you see that it will be worth getting through the struggle and not giving up.
- Be accountable - Find someone to hold you accountable. Whether it's a spouse, a life coach a mentor or a friend, find someone that will hold you to what you say you will do. Don't automatically pick your spouse or your best friend for this. They may not be the best fit. You need someone who will tell it like it is, and call you on things when they need to. If your friend or spouse can't do that, you need to find someone else who will. Tell your accountability partner what you plan to accomplish for the month, for the week, or even for the day. Go over it with them and let them know what you did and did not accomplish. Be honest. Faking your way through it will not help. This can make a huge impact, especially if you struggle with organization and keeping to your schedule.
- Keep moving - Even when you don't feel like it. There will be days that you do not want to do the things you know you need to do. Trust me, putting it off will not help; it will make you feel worse. When you get to the end of the day, and you look back and have really accomplished nothing of importance, it hurts your self-esteem and brings you down. I'm not talking about one off day where things go haywire. I'm talking about avoiding doing what you need to in order to be successful. If only more people did what they knew how to do, if they only acted on the knowledge they had, they would be in a much different position then they are right now. Even if it's a large step forward one day and a small step the next, keep moving forward no matter what.
These are just a few ways that can help you immensely in keeping the momentum in your life. I hope they help move you closer to where you desire to be.
You also need to know what drives you. What are the reasons you want to accomplish your goals? Why do you want to be successful in whatever your chosen endeavors are? Is it your family? Is it helping other people? Is it having the ultimate freedom - the ability to do what you want, when you want? Whatever your drive is, your "why", it needs to be big. The bigger the "why", the easier the "how to" becomes. A lot of people say their drive is making money. Well, money is great, but what does that money get for you? That's what you're after. Don't just focus on the fact that you want to make a certain amount of money. Focus on the fact that when you obtain that goal, it will give you more time with your family, or the opportunity to travel to the place you've always wanted to go, or whatever it may be that is the real reason you want to have the money in the first place. Money will drive you for a short time, but your "why" will keep you going for the long haul. Money alone will never be enough to help you push through those hard times and get you around the obstacles that you will undoubtedly face.
If you don't know what your passion is, or what your "why" is, you must take the time to reflect and find out what those things are. Without them, you will be hard pressed to be as successful as you can be. With them you can be unstoppable.
One thing that is for sure is that now people are realizing that their jobs are not secure like they thought they were. They realize they are expendable, and they must watch out for themselves and not rely on a company or anyone else to take care of them. They must take care of themselves. Because of this, there are more people than ever looking for an opportunity to start their own business or earn extra income on their own. What's great is there are a lot of options out there to build your own business part-time. If you still have a job, you don't have to quit just to start your own business, you can build it in your spare time and eventually it can replace your income and even end up being many times more than what you ever made at your job!
So if you have ever thought about starting your own business, and are unsure if this is the right time, START NOW! Find out what needs to be done to make it happen and take action! Take advantage of all the opportunity out there. Take advantage of the fact that there are tons of people out there looking for a new way of life; one where they are in control. If you are one of the unlucky ones that has lost your job, take advantage of the time that's been given to you. Don't look at it as a negative, look at it as an opportunity for change.
So now is the time. Not next year, not next month or next week, but now. Stand up, take action and make it happen for yourself. Start living the life you've dreamed about and that you deserve!
There are many types of fears that people may face. The fear of failure, the fear of success, the fear of what others may think or say and the fear of rejection. These are just a few of the major fears that people have. It is often very difficult to overcome these fears. Many times they are ingrained into us over years of experience, self-talk and our surroundings. However, just because it is hard to overcome your fears does not mean you should submit to them. Why live life in fear? Sure it will be hard to change it, but wouldn't it be better to face and defeat your fears, rather than living the rest of your life crippled by it?
It will probably be very uncomfortable during the process of conquering your fears. In order to conquer them, you must face them. There is no way around it. You cannot expect your fears to go away by avoiding what you are afraid of. Whether it is rejection or failure, you must stand up to your fear in order to overcome it. Stop worrying! Most of what you are afraid of will never happen. But because your mind focuses on the negative possibilities you steer clear of any of those situations. Shift your mind to the positive possibilities.
Also, realize that even if something "negative" happens, so what? What happens if you do fail? Take that failure, learn from it and try again. It will only make you stronger. What happens if you are rejected? So what? Don't take it personal (it usually isn't anyway) and move on. Ask yourself "what's the worst thing that can happen?" and then ask "will I really be any worse off if that worst possibility comes to pass?" The answer to that second question will most likely be "no".
A lot of this comes down to your self-talk. What are you saying to yourself daily, and what do you say to yourself regarding your fears? Nobody can make you feel a certain way, so don't make the excuse that you feel bad because of someone else. Never blame your circumstances or other people. It will get you nowhere. It's not what someone says or does to you that makes you feel a certain way, it's your response to what they say that is critical. If someone says something negative to you and your response is "they are right. I can't do this" that is your response to what they are saying. But if your response is "they don't really know me or what I am doing. I know I can do this and that is just their opinion" then the "negative" experience will not effect you. It is not what someones says to you that matters, it is what you say to yourself that makes the difference.
Facing and overcoming your fears can be one of the most challenging things you will ever do. But when you come out the other side, and you are no longer held back by your fears always wondering "what if I wasn't afraid to do this?" you will find freedom. Don't let fear hold you back from what you are capable of. Take control. Do what you are afraid of, and you will soon be afraid no more. "Courage is not the absense of fear. It is acting in spite of it." (Mark Twain)
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Winston Churchill said, "If you are going through Hell, keep going." Sometimes you have to go through some very hard things along the way to success. There will be adversity, people who don't support you and roadblocks in your way. But if you have made up your mind that you will never give up, these meerly become steps along the way.
Don't worry about any of these things that you may come accross. Remember that success is not a goal, it is a process. Yes, you have certain goals you would like to reach in order to consider yourself successful, but it is the process of reaching them that changes you into being a true success. Overcoming adversity, growing in your confidence and skills; these kinds of things come through the experiences you have while reaching your goals and becoming a success.
There is always a reason to give up. You don't have enough time, nothing seems to be working, it's easier to give up than it is to keep going. With all the reasons to give up, you must fight to look for reasons to keep going. Look up Charles "Tremendous" Jones' "Stickability is Tremendous". He talks about the human mind, and how just because you want to quit, it doesn't mean you have to quit. I love one of his quotes when he's talking about this. He says that even once he became successful he still wanted to quit. Then he realize he didn't really want to quit, he just wanted to want to quit. It's quite a concept.
This all comes down to one basic idea. "It's not whether you get knocked down; It's whether you get up." (Vince Lombardi). Even when you get "knocked down" and feel like quitting, get back up and keep going. Keep moving towards your goals, and never give in the the thoughts that you should quit.
Quitters never reach their potential. Only those who perservere and go through the difficult times will see the rewards. Keep your focus on those rewards so you know what you are fighting for. Never, never, never quit. You can only really fail if you give up and quit.
Whatever your goals or desires are, stop your mind from thinking about all the obstacles in the way, and how hard it will be to get there. Think only about getting there, and tell yourself that you will get there. Even if you do not really believe it at first, tell yourself anyway as if you do, and you will find your mindset slowly changing until you do in fact believe you can.
Remember to surround yourself with others that are a positive influence on you. Don't share your goals or desires with those who will only be negative and hurt your belief in yourself. People that think they can't are great at telling you that you can't either. Share with and be around those who also believe in you, and know you are capable of achieving what you desire.
Whatever the mind can concieve and believe, the mind can achieve. Don't limit yourself to only what you think is possible now. Whatever your mind can think up, you can achieve it if you believe that you can. It will take effort and dedication, but you can do it if you focus your mind on believing that you can and doing what it takes to make it happen.
If you find yourself not believing that you can achieve something, try to figure out why you think that. Is it that you have never accomplished something like that before? People accomplish new things every day. Is it that you don't have the skills neccessary? Find out how to get them, or find other people who have them who you can partner with. Whatever your "excuse" there is always a way around it if you look for it.
Practice shifting your mind to belief in yourself and what you can accomplish. Throw out any negative thoughts, and change them to positive ones. Believe you can accomplish anything, and it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
If you are not doing something right now that you are passionate about, take a long look at your situation. What could you be doing instead? Could you change directions and start doing something else? It is never to early or too late to try something new, especially if you are moving into something that you will be passionate about. There are opportunities out there, you just have to look for them.
Some people have never found their passion, or do not know what they are passionate about. If this is you, I encourage you to sit down and discover it. Everyone is passionate about something; sometimes it just takes a little bit of digging to find out what it is. Ask yourself what makes you tick. What do you really enjoy doing? What are your hobbies? When you are the most relaxed, what are you doing or thinking about at that time? If you could do anything you wanted, what would it be? Now, some of these questions could bring about answers that you know just are not going to happen. If you're in your 40's and you've always dreamed of being a professional baseball player, that's probably not going to happen. However, maybe you've wanted to be a baseball player, and you are good at writting. Seek opportunities to write about baseball so you are around what you love and have that passion to make it happen. Search around your passion. Be create and see what other opportunities are out there that have to do with what you are passionate about.
You also need to be passionate about your goals. If you are not driven forward by your goals, they are either too big for your mind to comprehend (see the newsletter on goals), or you are not passionate enough about the results. Whatever you are striving to achieve, you need to focus on why you want to get there. What is the real reason you want to achieve those things? If you want financial success, why? Just wanting more money is not going to drive you enough to succeed. It will never give you the perserverence to keep going when things get tough. Do you want more money so you can be free to do what you want? To be able to spend more time with your family? To not have to worry every month about if you'll have enough money to pay the bills? Those are the things that will drive you. Look for the "reason within the reason".
You need to make sure you are focusing on the passion in your life, both in what you are doing as well as in where you intend it to take you. Without it, there is a slim chance you will ever achieve your goals or reach your true potential. Maybe you will achieve success to some degree, but it will never be what you could have otherwise achieved, and it will be without the joy of the journey and the accomplishment that could have been there had you been passionate about it.
If you don't know what your passion is, discover it. If you do, seek opportunities to incorporate it into your life. Set goals that will drive you. Use passion as your benchmark, and you are sure to find success.
If you are not a studious person, don't worry. Learning can be a lot of fun if you give it a chance. There are a lot of books and programs out there that make it fun, throw in some humor, and make learning an experience instead of just a task. There are even educational games you can buy for various topics, such as finances.
Remember this: if you are not learning and growing, you are not really doing anything! Who wants to stay stagnant their whole life? Isn't life all about learning, exploring, making yourself a better person and challenging yourself? That's what makes it fun!
Set learning goals for yourself; read at least a book a month, listen to an audio program in your car instead of listening to music. As with any goals, start small if you are not used to doing these things so you can build youself into making it a routine.
Make sure that when you are doing any of these things, you make it interactive and participate as much as you can. Your mind comprehends things and remembers them better if you are doing more than just listening or reading words. When you read, highlight or underline anything that sticks out to you or you want to remember. Keep a journal with all the new things you are learning. If you are listening to an audio program in the car, make it interactive by rewinding and relistening to anything important. Repeat it back to help yourself remember. Try to involve as many senses in the learning process as possible. The more you involve yourself, the more effective it will be.
Learning should be a part of your life forever. By learning, you will not only gain knowledge, but with that knowledge you will gain more confidence and will find more success. Make a goal today of how you will grow in your knowledge, and constantly be looking for opportunities to learn something new.
In addition to the thoughts themselves, surrounding yourself with others who also have positive attitudes is huge. Whoever you spend the most time with is who you will be like. If you are around positive people, you will in turn be positive. If you are around negative people, it is almost impossible to be positive yourself. Spend your time with positive, successful people, and if you are not like them yet, you will be soon. This can sometimes be difficult to do. If you work with negative people, it is hard to avoid them and the negativity they bring. However, make sure you use the time that you can choose who you are with to be around those who will be a positive influence.
For some people these things are easier said than done. Your thoughts are a habit, so if you are in the habit of thinking negatively, you must change that. Habits are not easy to change, so it does take some work to take those negative thoughts, throw them out, and replace them with positive ones.
Whatever it takes to get a positive mental attitude, start working towards it now. Maybe you need to start hanging out with a different crowd. Maybe you need to focus on shifting your mind to positive thoughts whenever a negative one tries to find its way in. It could take a while for the new habit to form, but keep it up and it will happen.
If you’ve never heard it, I highly recommend listening to Earl Nightingale’s “The Strangest Secret”. It is an inspiring classic and talks about having a positive mental attitude and achieving success through your thoughts.
Of course, all this positive thinking does not take away from the fact that you must take action. Think positive, spend time with positive, successful people, and take action towards your goals. If you take theses steps and make a consistent effort, you are sure to achieve them.
Another thing that causes people to not reach their goals is that they make too many at once. It’s great to be driven and to have a multiple goals. But when you have too many, you lose the clarity that your mind needs to be able to focus on your goal and reach it. You also cannot do your best when you are trying to do too much, and it is easy to become overwhelmed and discouraged, eventually wanting to just quit.
Focus on one or two areas that you would like to change this year. Is this the year you take control of your health? Your finances? Maybe you want to significantly increase your income this year, and work a little bit harder on eating healthy and working out. Also, don’t set your goals too high. You definitely need to have big goals, but don’t make your short-term goals too far beyond where you are right now. Work in increments towards your long-term goals. Having goals that are too big can also overwhelm you when you feel pressured to reach them in such a short period of time.
You also want to make sure that whatever your goals are, they are measurable. You need to be able to know if you have hit your mark! Many people set goals that are too general, such as “lose weight”, “get in shape”, or “earn more money”. While these are good starting points, they should not be considered goals. How much weight do you want to lose? What do you want to be able to do to consider yourself in good shape? How much money do you want to make per year or month? The key phrase in goals is “How much, by when?”
The great news is that there are tons of amazing tools and programs out there to help you get your goals set and your plans laid out. Check out some of the resources and programs below. These are some of the best out there to help you learn how to be effective in setting and achieving your goals.
With the new year upon us, now is the perfect time to start fresh. Make big goals, believe in yourself, and do what it takes to make it happen. Here’s to an amazing and successful 2009!
Albert Einstein said “The value of a man resides in what he gives and not in what he is capable of receiving.” These words are so true. Everyone is capable of receiving. It takes no special effort. But giving, that takes sacrifice. You are giving something up for yourself so that someone else can benefit. That action creates joy inside of both parties, especially the giver.
People often think that the wealthy are greedy and hoard money for themselves. In most cases, this is far from the truth. Those who are wealthy understand the laws of money, and one of those laws is that money does not flow to the greedy. Those with money are often some of the most generous and caring people in the world. They understand that they must give out of what has been given to them to bless others around them and make a positive impact on the lives of others. In your quest for wealth, this should be one of your ultimate goals as well; to have the opportunity to bless the lives of others through your fortune and your blessings. That is true success.We are all capable of giving something. Maybe it's not money or a physical gift. Maybe it's time, or wisdom, or love. The point is that you are giving something of yourself to bless the life of another person. Everyone is capable of this, and if it's been a while since you have experienced the joy of giving, I strongly encourage you to take the step, make the sacrifice and find a way to bless someone else's life. Start slow if you must, but start. Then keep doing it-make it a habit. Make it something you are used to doing. When you make it a habit to be consistently blessing the lives of others, your life will change as well. You wont regret it.